WHY ON EARTH SHOULD I READ ABOUT THIS? SURELY SEX IS NATURAL, HEALTHY, FUN AND NORMAL? DOES ANYTHING GO THEN?
Unfortunately sex is none of these things for a lot of people at some stage of their lives. We all have a sex drive of some kind, whether it’s weak or strong, indulged or ignored and our perceptions of ourselves as sexual beings vary enormously according to our upbringing. To copulate then is natural – it can be undertaken with anyone and not necessarily even in the context of an interpersonal relationship. However, we can do a lot better than simply copulate because we are highly elaborate verbal and emotional creatures and even genital sexual expression is a very complex business.
Does anything go then?
That’s entirely up to you. As doctors seeing people with real problems we don’t condemn anyone for what they are or what they do but you will have to decide how you interpret and react to the book for yourself and your family. We have tried very hard not to let our personal preferences and prejudices come across. Each family will apply the contents of this book differently according to its race, religion, economic state, level of education, level of expectations, personalities, their care for each other and their family, and so on. For this reason we have included articles on homosexuality, prostitution and several other areas not immediately and obviously to do with the family. However, the majority of parents worry about homosexual influences on their young teenagers at some stage; and the majority of the clients of prostitutes are married men, so an understanding of even these subjects is of considerable importance to an understanding of family love and sex.
We have written articles with no clear beginning and no end because sexuality has no beginning and no end. The baby who has just been born is at one and the same time at a starting point (for him) but an end point for his recently pregnant mother. One’s first love-affair is a vital milestone along the path of life yet will, however important it seems at the time, fade away and be displaced by more mature love. Our life experience in love and sex do not go with us to the grave — they live on in our children and their children.
So, in conclusion, what we hope will come out of this article is a better future based on improved man-woman relationships. This comes down to real, live individuals relating to and understanding each other, and not to religious, political, philosophical or medical theories and rules. The world is in a rather troubled state but there is hope for the future if only the basic unit of society, the family, can be made to work better. This it can only do if its members understand each other better and live in this increased knowledge and understanding.
Having said this, there is no such thing as perfection and few people’s lives are ‘ideal’ in this or any other area. But this does not mean that we should not or cannot have some notion of what is worth striving for.
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