GAMES FOR BORED COUPLES – GAME 1: SEDUCTION SURPRISE (BY THE WIFE) (PART 4)
The game can then be repeated and varied—or, a couple may simply begin having more sex without the game. And more sex will at least temporarily bring about a stronger bond that will enable the couple to begin communicating about things they have long kept pent up. “All you do is talk about the stock market,” she may say, “and that makes me feel angry and rejected.” He may reply, “I wish you’d take more of an interest in my work and stop being so demanding.” At the very least, a dialogue is started—and, once this dialogue has begun, the couple is ready for chapter 14, “Games to Restore Tenderness.”
Warning: Soon after the flame of intimacy is rekindled, there is a tendency to retreat to the original defensive postures—and both partners must be wary of that. It will be an ongoing struggle against giving in to this resistance, one that may last for weeks, months, even years. Defensive postures are just another kind of addiction—but, like all other addictions, they are hard to break. It takes a valiant effort to do so.
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